Often times I found myself being the one who contacts people and asks how they are, how’s their iman and if they need anything. Lately I sat down after going through many trials and pondered over who even knew what was happening in my life, who bothers to ask about me or my iman unless I ask them first ? Who even really cares ?
I have always been that person people tell everything to, that people will call at 2am and need to have a talk or need something. I never minded because I told myself, I’m Muslim and they need my help I will help them for the sake of Allah as long as I’m capable of that.
I realised that may be I was actually harming these people more then helping them since they would become dependant in me being there for them everytime ” something happened ” and when I wasn’t they would be distraught and tell me they didn’t know what to do.
There is nothing wrong in asking for help but our first reaction and call should be to ask Allah to alleviate us from what we suffer from and to provide for us a way out. It is preferable to not ask others and be patient.
Many times when people found out the afflictions I whent through and asked why I didn’t ask them for help my first thought is, why you as my sister in Islam wasn’t concerned enough to know my state of affairs and secondly it is more benefitting to ones situation and better for their iman and aqeedah to be patient and wait for the help of Allah after asking Him because He is more capable to help then anyone else of His creation.
Yes, there are times it’s perfectly normal and acceptable and even best to ask for help but that is rare cases as most affairs are only tests from Allah and will resolve themself through patience and time.
We need to leave this idea of fast solutions, stress and worry about what Allah has already decreed. Dua, this is the key to success!
It is You we worship and You we ask for help. (Quran 1.5)